Validating Principles For Parents
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Oh |
| I'll bet that's hard |
| I think I understand |
| Hmmm. |
| I think I might have felt the same way |
| That must be frustrating |
| I'm so sorry that happened to you |
| Wow! |
| That's interesting |
| What a difficult position to be in |
| That's awful! |
| I don't blame you one bit |
| That's wonderful |
| That was good |
| I'm happy along with you |
| I'm happy for you |
| I'm sad with you |
| That's painful |
| I'll bet that was difficult |
| I feel like crying too |
| What an awkward situation to be in |
| That was amazing |
| I'll bet that was fun |
| That's neat |
| I'll bet you'll miss him |
| I would have been embarrassed, too |
| That's exciting |
| I never thought of that |
| What a good idea! |
| What a good way to handle that situation |
| That might be just the right solution |
| Well, if that doesn't beat all! |
| Oh, my goodness |
| Oh, no! I know how much that meant to you |
| That's a tough spot to be in |
| That's a real bummer |
| That's great |
| Tell me more |
| That's got to be a real challenge |
Validating Questions For Parents
| Oh? |
| How do you feel about that? |
| What did you do? |
| And then what did you do? |
| What would you like to do? |
| When do you think it could be done? |
| What do you think the outcome will be? |
| What do you think might work? |
| What do you think would work next time? |
| Are there other options? |
| What happened? |
| How did it happen? |
| Where did it happen? |
| When did it happen? |
| What did you think when it happened? |
| How could you stand that? |
| How did you stand that? |
| And then what did you say? |
| What do you think caused the problem? |
| What's wrong? |
| What went wrong? |
| What was that like? |
| Did you enjoy that? |
| Did that hurt your feelings? |
| What does that mean? |
| What would you like me to do? |
| Is there anything I can do to help you? |
| Would it help if I (name something you can do)? |
From I Don't Have to Make Everything All Better
by Gary B. Lundberg and Joy Saunders Lundberg
This excellent book is available directly from the publisher:
Riverpark Publishing
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