Validating
Principles For Parents
- Oh
- I'll bet that's hard
- I think I understand
- Hmmm.
- I think I might have felt the same way
- That must be frustrating
- I'm so sorry that happened to you
- Wow!
- That's interesting
- What a difficult position to be in
- That's awful!
- I don't blame you one bit
- That's wonderful
- That was good
- I'm happy along with you
- I'm happy for you
- I'm sad with you
- That's painful
- I'll bet that was difficult
- I feel like crying too
- What an awkward situation to be in
- That was amazing
- I'll bet that was fun
- That's neat
- I'll bet you'll miss him
- I would have been embarrassed, too
- That's exciting
- I never thought of that
- What a good idea!
- What a good way to handle that situation
- That might be just the right solution
- Well, if that doesn't beat all!
- Oh, my goodness
- Oh, no! I know how much that meant to you
- That's a tough spot to be in
- That's a real bummer
- That's great
- Tell me more
- That's got to be a real challenge
Validating
Questions For Parents
- Oh?
- How do you feel about that?
- What did you do?
- And then what did you do?
- What would you like to do?
- When do you think it could be done?
- What do you think the outcome will be?
- What do you think might work?
- What do you think would work next time?
- Are there other options?
- What happened?
- How did it happen?
- Where did it happen?
- When did it happen?
- What did you think when it happened?
- How could you stand that?
- How did you stand that?
- And then what did you say?
- What do you think caused the problem?
- What's wrong?
- What went wrong?
- What was that like?
- Did you enjoy that?
- Did that hurt your feelings?
- What does that mean?
- What would you like me to do?
- Is there anything I can do to help you?
- Would it help if I (name something you can do)?
From I Don't Have to Make Everything All Better
by Gary B. Lundberg and Joy Saunders Lundberg
This excellent book is available directly from the publisher:
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